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  • Writer's pictureJan Weihl

Unruly Kids (1 Kings 1)

Have you ever noticed that some people who are successful in their jobs, in positions of leadership, or even people of strong faith sometimes have the most unruly kids?

Why do you think that is?

It could be that some people in positions of leadership or authority are so used to others following their lead that they expect their children to do the same without investing time to love, teach, and discipline them.

Or it could be that some people who have a strong faith just assume their kids will have a strong faith too without investing time to love, teach, and discipline them.

Or it could be that some people who are successful in their jobs spend all their time focused on their jobs and don’t make it a priority to love, teach, and discipline their kids.

Or it could be that some people don’t understand that part of loving their kids is spending time with them, teaching them consequences to their actions, and disciplining them when they don’t follow the rules as God’s Word teaches us.

In these last couple of books there are examples of two amazing men of God, Samuel and David, who focused their lives on serving and following God. But both had extremely unruly kids who did terrible things.

In 1 Kings 1, Adonijah, David’s fourth son, decided he was going to usurp the throne of his father and make himself king.

What in his upbringing would make Adonijah possibly think this was ok or Godly?

1 Kings 1:5-6 About that time David’s son Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, began boasting, “I will make myself king.” So he provided himself with chariots and charioteers and recruited fifty men to run in front of him. Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, “Why are you doing that?” Adonijah had been born next after Absalom, and he was very handsome.

We’re told why Adonijah was unruly, full of himself, and thought he could do whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. His father, David, never disciplined him. We are not told if the mother disciplined him.

God has designed families to consist of a father, mother, and children. When both the father and mother spend time with their children, love and teach their children about God, right and wrong, rules, responsibilities and consequences, the children grow up feeling loved by God and by their parents and understand their role in the family and in society. They learn they cannot just do whatever they want, whenever they want. They learn to respect authority, follow rules, be responsible, and how to love God and love others.

Children will naturally mimic what they see in their parents. If they see their parents constantly on their phones, sitting in front of the tv, or not having time for them, that’s what the kids will learn to do also.

But if kids see their parents in prayer, reading their Bibles, and making God a priority, they will be more inclined to make God their priority too. But the parents must make it a priority to teach their kids when they are young, teachable, and when the door is open.

If the parents don’t make it a priority to model their faith in front of their children and teach them about God, the world will teach them everything that is against God.

Dear Lord, Now more than ever we need fathers and mothers loving their children, making it a priority to invest time teaching them about You and Your love for them as well as about respecting authority, rules, responsibilities, and consequences.

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