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  • Writer's pictureJan Weihl

Discipline is Love (Proverbs 29)

Updated: Jul 20, 2022

Have you noticed how the views on discipline have changed over the years? It seems that many people today believe children should be free to do whatever they want. But how will they learn right and wrong, to work hard, and to be productive members of society without loving them enough to discipline and instruct them?

When I was in 7th grade I had a science teacher who scared me to death. The first week of school I was working in the office which made me late to science class. The secretary called down to tell the teacher why I was late. But this teacher was waiting for me at the door of his classroom with a long wooden paddle in his hand.

Out of the sight of the other students, he stopped me, opened a locker, pulled out a large book, and handed it to me. Then he hit that book with the paddle making a loud smack that I'm sure everyone in every classroom up and down that hallway had to hear. He then told me not to say a word and go take my seat. Being a shy kid I had no problem following that instruction and looking somewhat terrified when I walked into the classroom. After quietly putting the book back in the locker, he came into the classroom and in a loud angry voice said "don't you ever be late to my class again."

Needless to say, no one was ever late to Mr. Schneidewind's science class or disobeyed even one of his instructions. Looking back now I also realize I probably learned more in his class than any other class that year because there was no way I was going to be caught not paying attention to every instruction he gave. As the school year progressed, Mr. Schneiderwein actually became one of my favorite teachers. I understood he really cared about us and wanted us to learn.

Discipline is not a bad thing. In fact, if we truly love our children we will take the time to discipline and teach them what is right, what is wrong, how to work hard, how to be productive members of society, how to show love and respect to those around us, and how to love the LORD our God with all of our heart, mind, and soul.

Even Scripture makes it clear that a responsible parent should discipline their children:

Proverbs 29:15 To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.

Proverbs 25:17 Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind and will make your heart glad.

But even without Scripture, it seems like common sense that as parents we need to teach and discipline our children. So why today do so many people have an "anything goes" mindset? Could it be because of the time commitment it takes to teach them, play with them, pray with them, and love them enough to also discipline them.

In order to have a quality relationship with our children we have to be willing to give them our attention, focus, and quantity time. We have to invest in them instead of in the electronic devices that our world is addicted to today. We have to encourage them to spend quantity time with us rather than in front of a TV or other electronic device.

Dear Lord, Thank you for making it clear to us that investing time with our kids was more important than having an impressive title, fancy car, or big house. Thank you for showing us that quality time with our kids only comes when we invest quantity time with them, teaching them, loving them, praying with them, and disciplining them.

Lord, I pray for wisdom for the parents of this next generation. Lord, please put it on their hearts to pour into their children, to love them, play with them, instruct them, and discipline them rather than allowing them to be taught by the world and addicted to the prizes the world will constantly dangle before their eyes. In Jesus' name, I pray. Amen.

Jan Weihl

Living Word Ministries

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